That stopped me dead in my tracks. She barely even remembered me. I carried it a thousand times longer than I needed to carry it. Oh she did once, decades earlier. There never had been. It was only my own mind. She told me her own story then. They yanked her around like a trophy in a vicious and endless tug of war. Every day she went to school furious and full of spite. And she lashed out at everyone to feel good about herself because she hated herself and her life.
I was just a random target in the way of a wave of sorrow and rage. And like me she carried her childhood pain with her long after her parents split up. But then one day she woke up. She changed. And she realized one of the most important lessons in life:. As the master sage, Khalil Gibran , once wrote:. They come through you but not from you,.
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. He could have just as easily have said:. They come through you but they are not you. And so just like Lisa in Spiritual Warfare, she left her unhappy marriage and made a new choice.
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She struck out on her own and raised her daughter by herself. While it was never easy, it was the right choice. And more than that, it was the path to true joy. I listened to her whole story with tears in my eyes and then I said three little words that made all the difference in the world:. I left it there and never looked back.
Not anymore at least. Not much. Humans love illusions. Illusions are really, really comforting. We imagine a secret technique that the ancient masters know. If we could only find it everything would flow easily and smoothly all the time. Get this. Buy that. Be this. Own that. I am this.
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I am that. Happiness and sadness and depression come and go in cycles.
Nothing lasts forever, good or bad. But it does help a lot to alleviate the madness. When you mind is swirling with fear and crazy thoughts and negative energy do this:. It just appears that way on the surface. The first one is the most crucial.
The thoughts are wrong and insane and negative but they are not real. They are nothing but a dark wind and they have as much substance as the wind. So the key here is not to listen to any of them. Do not get attached to any of them. Just find shelter and wait it out. Do nothing. Take no action that comes from these wrong and unclear and delusional thoughts.
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And just like a storm the thoughts will start to burn themselves out. The second one is to wait for a clear signal.
Eventually it breaks through, as the storm slows. And that voice is the one that knows, your true voice. Eventually it will say something loud and clear, like a trumpet blast. And when it does comes step three. The storm has passed and you have your next mission. It could be as simple as saying no to another pointless meeting or taking time with your friends and family on the weekend. Or it could be the time to quit your job or book that ticket to Europe. Let the storm pass. Once the storm passes, listen. Then take action. Eventually I got faster and better with it and the storms kicked themselves out faster.
It takes time to master. Or the second. Or the tenth. Maybe the thing that helped me more than anything was finding writing. And more importantly committing to writing. Everyone has something that gives them joy, even if they do it at an amateur level. My grandfather worked in an airplane factory his whole life but he had a stained glass workshop in the basement and he spent many hours down there making beautiful colored glass ornaments and artifacts.
One of my old friends loved photography and always carried a camera with him on trips despite being an executive at a bank. Everyone has something like this, some refuge and escape from the world.
Nurture that. Never neglect it. Joy is found in returning to the things we love again and again. The meaning of life is not found in the famous, age old question:. That is a universal question that has no answer. The right question is what is the meaning of life to me?
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When you stop trying to keep all the plates spinning and stop trying to do everything the world tells you and you stop chasing fantasies of perpetual happiness than you can just live your life. And then you can find the true joy of life which is spending time with family and loved ones, eating things that you like that make you feel healthy and sometimes eating something unhealthy too and being OK with it.
Exercising, creating things, writing, talking, walking, recording, painting, traveling, thinking, spending time with kids and animals, whatever those things are for you, find them. When you stop worrying about all these other things then it opens up the path to the true meaning of life, which is spending time on the things that you love.
One bad day does not take away a lifetime of amazing. And yet he did spectacular things. He wrote a best seller and traveled the world and met amazing people. He did all of those things and more. It was up and down, a roller coaster like all our lives. He took big risks and put himself out there in the public eye. He lived big. Nobody can take all those other days away from him or us. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
Take a chance. Embrace life. There is a lot of controversy surrounding head lice today. I cant wait to get the Soul— book. The author failed to convince me of a utilitarian aspect to his implications.